It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

"Mirror, mirror upon the wall, Who is the fairest of them all?" it answered- "O Lady Queen, though fair ye be, Snow-White is fairer far to see - snow white and the seven dwarfs. As the story narrates the lady queen flipped out because she wanted to be the fairest of them all.

Since childhood it has been inculcated in us, by fairytales like Snow white and other schools of thought that I don’t want to be second, when I can be first. This I believe was the beginning of the social epidemic of lying to ourselves. It’s hard to face reality when it doesn’t look so great so why not make it colourful by lying to ourselves.

Lying to yourself is a poor idea and a waste of time. On the flip side of the coin we were taught that honesty is the best policy but why is it that we still lie to ourselves. I think that people who lie to themselves actually have some sought of a behavioural disorder or the have a serious case of denial; it isn’t just a river in Egypt.

Most people are not honest with themselves because of fears such as rejection and criticism. Those who lie to themselves disguise it as hope or optimism. In the present moment lying to yourself will appear to be the favourable option but somewhere down the line when threads start to unravel and things start to fall apart. The truth will prevail.

It is definitely a poor idea to lie to yourself, just be honest you are the only one who will lose out in the end.

Not all who wander are lost

I did some research on the topic before I attempted to write this blog entry. Not all who wander are lost? I found an interesting piece of information. Author, J.R.R. Tolkien used a comparable phrase in his book "The Fellowship of the Ring", the first book of the "Lord of the Rings" trilogy. "All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost". It means that everything is not what it appears to be.

It made me think that people who wonder and seem to be lost are just the undecided ones. They indeed aren't lost they just haven't found what they are looking for. On the contrary, who says they who do not wander are not lost, maybe they just settled for anything. Maybe they just seem lost and all over the place because they like to try out different things. Sometimes wandering is good for you it enables you to encounter things you might not have encountered in a non wandering scenario hence you grow and learn much more.

You know the saying ‘those who do not plan, plan to fail’ I don’t believe that’s true. I believe in destiny, whatever suppose to happen will happen, so any road will take you there, wandering or sticking to the straight and narrow.

How to step from the top of a 100-foot pole?

Stepping from the top of a 100-foot pole can never be easy, I imagine. I’m the type of person that regrets the things I have done in life not the things I haven’t done, so this will be a process…

If all I have achieved so far in life is riding on this decision of taking ‘a step’, I would consider whether I really want to limit myself to the secure and good or take a chance with the possibility of something great happening? I would ask myself over and over what do I have to loose and what do I have gain. . I will envisage the younger me when I didn’t understand what a risk was I just did it. I wouldn’t think too much about stepping from the top of a 100-foot pole because once you pause you make a gap for common sense to kick in. I’ll step with poise because I know to triumph without risk is to triumph without brilliance. That step might just be a step in the right direction

I ask myself why I would want to step down when I should be climbing up. Why am I so afraid? It might just be one measly step for me but it might just be a giant leap for mankind.

We are what we do???

After turning red-er than red I shall take a deep breath and begin to write... (In my mind)

Okay so last week this time I read Marian Pike's blog to have a look at what the topic for that week's blog was. "What are we to do" is what I saw, idea's started to flow within...easy as pie I thought.

Now here we are almost seven days down the line and naturally more and more of my class mates are doing their blog entries and some of them commenting on mine. I had not even had the faintest clue that what I saw the topic to be was in fact wrong. I did not even know that I had done something wrong.

Firstly one could not blame this on me being hung over because I don't even drink. Deprived from sleep could be a factor? I need specs, but I eat my carrots. One could maybe blame the fact that I was indeed in a hurry to do my blog to get back to the festivities of the Easter weekend.

So with "we are what we do" in mind I have clearly done something so silly for the entire world to see that it is indeed proven that I am silly because I do silly things exhibit A. Maybe everyone that reads my blog could just forgive me because mistakes are what humans do and I'm indeed a human. So stop laughing already.

What are we to do?

With the elections only two weeks away and Jacob Zuma aka JZ just this week being released of his corruption charges by the NPA, a sense of urgency is building within me.The future is looking gloom.

As a young adolescent in South Africa I almost feel that my vote is a "do or die" vote, I'll be voting with the intention to make a difference by bringing change. I must just admit that I really hope that Jacob Zuma does not become president, but chances are that he probably will be. What are we to do? Us common folk need to make a stand. We cannot just sit back and see what happens or let this defeatist’s attitude rule us.

I spoke to a friend earlier this week. She told me “I forgot to register to vote so I’m not voting”. I could feel my blood begin to boil. I cannot even begin to fathom why people don’t see the importance of voting. If you don’t vote you will have no say. Come the 22 April 2009 we need to vote, for who you might ask? The party DAt will get this country back on the road to success.

We are afraid of the wrong things

We are afraid of the wrong things? Are we really? I am legitimately afraid of certain things...like the dark and small spaces. But I think we as humans tend to also be afraid of the wrong things, which even has a control on the way we live.

You know when you getting done to go somewhere, you end up changing your outfit over and over Why? So that you can look better? But for who? We are so afraid of what people are going to say and that they will judge us, but in fact they barley even notice what we wear. And that’s a fact.

We are so afraid to die Why? Because we know that the life that we are leading is not what God approves of. If we lived the right way we should want to die as soon as possible as to avoid being misled onto the wrong path. Be more afraid of how you live your life.

We are so afraid of failure that we actually end up crippling ourselves by putting negative thoughts in our head, a mere self fulfilling prophesy. We will succeed, I say.

We are so afraid to be ourselves that we all living in this pretend world. We are all great its time that you believe it to.

So the lesson in all of this is, stop being afraid of the wrong things and live a real life with legitimate fears like the dark and small spaces.

What is the colour of the wind?

Rolling off her lips…”What is the colour of the wind? is the topic for this blog that ‘s due”. Baffled little me sat there for a while trying to come up with some sought of a witty and creative answer, but to my dismay, I guess in the real world I realized that the wind has no colour.

The wind is see through, sheer, translucent, transparent and all that other adjectives. However, all of us tend to have an alternative world to that which we live in, our own little world that we escape to now and then, where things are different to that of the real world. People are red, green and orange. A real rainbow nation. Zebra’s are multicoloured species, not just black and white. The sky is green and the grass is blue.

If I had to choose, in my world the colour of the wind would be black. A basic colour, looks good with everything and is flattering on every level. It would make everything look very scary on a windy day. Just imagine that tumble weed with a gush of black wind traveling behind it. Adapted from a quote from Jimmy Dean “I can't change the colour of the wind, but I can surely try to see things in a different colour.”